SIX DEGREES OF SEPARATION

First, you think the worst is a broken heart

Some relationships are not fortunate enough to achieve the forever they have always dreamed of.  There are a lot of reasons why relationships end, but whatever those are, it all creates a broken heart in the lives of the people who lost their significant other.  There are people who easily move on, but there are also some who cannot let go of the fact that they have just lost the battle that was once theirs to fight for.  Some cry until all the tears run dry, some drink beer until they forget the happy memories they once shared, some pretend to be happy until they also make their selves believe in the lies they have created.  But no matter what people do, the broken heart remains inside because we cannot deny the fact that love just played its major game on us.

What's gonna kill you is the second part

As the scar of the broken heart deepens, it will be harder to admit that your life is now different.  The usual long calls turn into not calling at all.  The lovely endearments turn into memories that was once yours to cherish.  Everything you thought would be permanent just turned into a dream that is now a part of your past.  And as you reminisce, the memories that made your life perfect during the relationship are the ones that slowly kills your heart.  As you lie down before the day ends, you ask yourself: What have I done wrong?

And the third, is when your world splits down the middle

We cannot deny the fact that when we love, our world revolves around that person.  You do everything together and talk everyday, but that was the PAST.  How do you cope with the broken heart?  How do you tell yourself to move on when everything you used to do, you do it for love?  And now, all you can do is cry because everything you thought was real is not.  But what we do not know is this: The depression caused by heartbreak creates a barrier that prevents us from feeling and experiencing life to its fullest.

And fourth, you're gonna think that you fixed yourself

Time heals all wounds.  After a certain period of time, we realize that the pain is slowly gone.  This is the time wherein we start to entertain new people into our lives.  The smiles that faded away during the heartbreak is now visible once again at this stage.  We also get to apprehend that the world can offer us something better and that we can be happy without the help of someone who does nothing, but hurt us.  At this point in time, it slowly becomes clear to us that the world does not revolve around love and we can focus on other things in order to make our lives successful.

Fifth, you see them out with someone else

Problem is, the broken heart comes rushing out again when we see them with someone else.  Although we have to accept the fact that the relationship is already history and you are no longer in a relationship, it kills to see him/her with someone knowing that you used to be the only one who made him/her smile and laugh.  But as time passes by, you realize that it would be best to shrug it off.  We can only wish them well and let them enjoy their lives.  We all deserve to be happy and if that is what makes him/her happy, let them be.

And the sixth, is when you admit that you may have messed up a little

The best way to move on is to accept that you both made mistakes.  He may have done some things to hurt you, but have you thought about the fact that you may have hurt him at some point of the relationship too?  Forgive and forget.  It will surely be hard, but we also have to consider that not all love stories have a happy ending.

THE SECOND OPTION

Have you ever been someone's second choice?  The second option?  The second priority?  The feeling wherein he/she says that you are important or you mean a lot to them, but deep inside, you know that there is always someone they prefer to be with?  Been there, felt that.

Ever asked yourself this question: Why should I be the second option when you have always been my first?  Ohh, right!  Because I will never be enough.  There are these moments in our lives wherein we just feel like saying, "I am not a second option. You either choose me or you lose me!"  Funny thing is, we just can't.  Know why?  Because we know that they will never choose us and it will be too painful to lose that person even if they never made us the only one and the priority.

While it is true that nobody deserves to be the second option, we cannot avoid this certain kind of scenario.  It just so happens that the second option is needed because the first option was not working out.  HAHA!  You know what second options are like?  A piece of meat that is saved up for later when the first option is not available.  It hurts to get punched by the truth, right?  It hurts to feel so used and mistreated when all you ever do is put so much effort into the relationship, but it never seems enough that is why you just get left behind when the real priority comes along again.

By the end of the day, here's a thought:

"Never settle for being someone's other when you have the potential to be someone's only."

UNREQUITED LOVE

"Loving someone who does not love you is like reaching for a star. You know you'll never reach it, but you just got to keep trying."

- Anonymous

Doesn't it feel good to love and to be loved in return?  The feeling wherein you love someone and the feeling is reciprocated.  Question is, why are there some instances wherein a person loves another even if the obvious fact is the other person does not?

During my early years, I often wonder why some people choose to engage in this kind of situation and go to such trouble as to love another even if the feeling is not reciprocated.  Is it because it is too hard to resist someone who is just so dashing and seems to be glowing when the sun is up (Oh, I'm not talking about Edward Cullen here) or is it because there are fewer complications when you get involved in this kind of love?

For those people who does not know the concept of unrequited love, according to wikipedia.org, it is a love that is not openly reciprocated or understood as such.  The beloved may or may not be aware of the admirer's deep and strong romantic affections.

I may have or may not have been in the same predicament as these people, but I can somehow summarize the whole cycle that they are in.  The other person will do all the loving, giving and caring, while the other did no loving, giving and caring at all, simply receiving.  It is not a good experience, but as most people say, every event/happening in your life has an equivalent lesson.

Everything happens for the best.  If the person you love now does not love you back, it does not mean that no person would.  Maybe, the timing is just wrong and the right person has yet to come.  Someday, someone would come along and love you as much as you do.  Be patient.  True love is something worth waiting for.

THOUSAND MILES AWAY

Ever loved someone who lives on the other side of the planet?  To the point that you never know when you might see that person because there are certain limitations that permit you to do so.  I have experienced this kind of situation.  It is really hard because you do not see the person as much as you want to and you cannot talk to that someone personally because he is just so far from you.

Although it is somewhat exciting because you never know if you will meet them soon or not, it hurts deep inside because as a person who is in love, certainty is of great importance.  Another problem with long distance love is that you never know if the other person is being honest with you.  He can tell you that he loves you even if he does not mean it, but you will never know.

Two important things that I believe would make a long distance love work are hope and optimism.  Hope because you try to put your everything to it and wish for everything good to happen although you are not entirely sure of the outcome.  Optimism because there comes a time wherein the loneliness of not being with him/her might eat you up.  Question here is, how long can you maintain your daily doses of hope and optimism?

A long distance love is something really fragile.  Yes, you can talk to one another on Viber, Facebook, YM or Skype, but the feeling of being close to someone else can be a serious threat to what you are feeling towards each other.

Credits to the owner of the video.  May your love last for a very long time. :)