I REBOUND YOU

REBOUND RELATIONSHIP

A relationship proceeding a long-term relationship used to mend the broken heart

A situation wherein a person quickly gets involved with someone to prove that he has moved on

Fortunately, I have never been in a rebound relationship, but the thought of being in one actually makes my head hurt.   You must be wondering why I am writing about this if I have never experienced it.  Well, here is the thing, I have a friend who requested me to write something about it because she thinks that she is currently in one.  She asked me to share my thoughts about it and if possible, enumerate some signs to know if she really is in one.  Here it goes.

WHAT MAKES A RELATIONSHIP A REBOUND RELATIONSHIP?

This kind of relationship is easy to spot and recognize for what it is.  It is actually a band aid for the heartbroken and it serves as a distraction from all the unresolved pain and trauma of the rejection that you have just faced from your recent partner.  It is easy because you may feel as though a new relationship will get you past the old one.  When you are in a rebound relationship, you spend a significant amount of time focusing on your previous one.  Focusing on what could have been, what went wrong, what you have done instead, wondering if you did the right thing all throughout the relationship and a lot more.  Because of this, you are draining out the potential of your current one to be successful.

While it must be easy to figure out if you are still on the rebound, finding out if your partner is on the rebound is a lot tougher.  Some people will be more capable of hiding their feelings and thoughts which makes it harder for you to know if your relationship is REAL or REEL.  This means that you do not really have any clues about whether their behavior is normal or they are still affected by their unfinished business with the past.

WAYS TO KNOW IF IT IS REAL OR REEL

1. If he/she keeps talking about the ex

Since he/she is showing much interest with the ex, it only proves that he/she is not really ready to move on.

2. If he/she would drop the new love for the old love

If someone made him/her choose between the new love or the old love and he/she chose the old love, then it probably means that you are a rebound.

3. If he/she often compares you with the old love

Everyone wants to be loved for who they are.  If your partner keeps on comparing you, it surely means that you are a rebound because he/she wants to see the ex in you.

4. If he/she has a tendency to show you off in public

While this may be a good thing, you might also consider the fact that your partner might be doing this because he/she wants the ex to be jealous.

Those are the signs that I can think of.  There may be a lot more of them that I have not mentioned.  So, what is my main thought about this rebound thing?  Well, if you are in one, you better ask the person or even yourself if you really want to be in this kind of relationship.  This kind of scenario is really tough and you must put into consideration that this game is not for the faint-hearted.