TIME TO MOVE ON?

"Sooner or later, we've all got to let go of our past."

- Dan Brown

Love is something we all experience at one point in our lives.  We meet someone who eventually becomes a significant part of us.  What makes or breaks it is the fact that we are not certain if that person will hold on or let go. If he/she chooses to break your heart, a thing that will surely be hard to do is to move on.

Sometimes, we ask ourselves, is this the right time to forget that someone or should I keep holding on to the promises that we once shared?  Truth be told, that question messes everything up.  It makes you hold on even more to the person who broke your heart.  You even make yourself believe that the person will come back soon even if you know deep within you that the day you are hoping for will never come.

Question is, when is the right time to move on?

#1. When you live in past memories more than the present.

You may have noticed that there are some instances wherein you replay the happy moments of the relationship to make you feel good about it.  I realized that this can be a defense mechanism for some people.  By doing so, you allow yourself to live in a self-created reality which is very different from the actual moment that you are in.  You have to remember that past memories should remain as memories.  You should live in the present and think of your future more than your past.

#2. When neither of you feel the same about each other.

Time flies, feelings change.  If the feelings do not exist anymore, I think it is obvious that it is time to move on.  There are people we never want to leave behind, but holding on to someone who does not love you back only drags out the misery.  You should know deep within you that love is a two-way process.  You deserve someone who will love you wholeheartedly and never leave you for someone else.  Remember, true love doesn't have a happy ending because it doesn't end at all.

#3. When loving the person brings you more pain than joy.

While it may be true that a part of loving is hurting, you should know that when crying becomes a regular thing, it only denotes that he/she is not the right one.  If someone deserves you, that person should be one which brings you happiness and not tears.

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Keep in mind that letting go is not the end of the world, it is the beginning of a new life.  A new life that will make you look back and think that the person who hurt you only made you stronger.