SIX DEGREES OF SEPARATION

First, you think the worst is a broken heart

Some relationships are not fortunate enough to achieve the forever they have always dreamed of.  There are a lot of reasons why relationships end, but whatever those are, it all creates a broken heart in the lives of the people who lost their significant other.  There are people who easily move on, but there are also some who cannot let go of the fact that they have just lost the battle that was once theirs to fight for.  Some cry until all the tears run dry, some drink beer until they forget the happy memories they once shared, some pretend to be happy until they also make their selves believe in the lies they have created.  But no matter what people do, the broken heart remains inside because we cannot deny the fact that love just played its major game on us.

What's gonna kill you is the second part

As the scar of the broken heart deepens, it will be harder to admit that your life is now different.  The usual long calls turn into not calling at all.  The lovely endearments turn into memories that was once yours to cherish.  Everything you thought would be permanent just turned into a dream that is now a part of your past.  And as you reminisce, the memories that made your life perfect during the relationship are the ones that slowly kills your heart.  As you lie down before the day ends, you ask yourself: What have I done wrong?

And the third, is when your world splits down the middle

We cannot deny the fact that when we love, our world revolves around that person.  You do everything together and talk everyday, but that was the PAST.  How do you cope with the broken heart?  How do you tell yourself to move on when everything you used to do, you do it for love?  And now, all you can do is cry because everything you thought was real is not.  But what we do not know is this: The depression caused by heartbreak creates a barrier that prevents us from feeling and experiencing life to its fullest.

And fourth, you're gonna think that you fixed yourself

Time heals all wounds.  After a certain period of time, we realize that the pain is slowly gone.  This is the time wherein we start to entertain new people into our lives.  The smiles that faded away during the heartbreak is now visible once again at this stage.  We also get to apprehend that the world can offer us something better and that we can be happy without the help of someone who does nothing, but hurt us.  At this point in time, it slowly becomes clear to us that the world does not revolve around love and we can focus on other things in order to make our lives successful.

Fifth, you see them out with someone else

Problem is, the broken heart comes rushing out again when we see them with someone else.  Although we have to accept the fact that the relationship is already history and you are no longer in a relationship, it kills to see him/her with someone knowing that you used to be the only one who made him/her smile and laugh.  But as time passes by, you realize that it would be best to shrug it off.  We can only wish them well and let them enjoy their lives.  We all deserve to be happy and if that is what makes him/her happy, let them be.

And the sixth, is when you admit that you may have messed up a little

The best way to move on is to accept that you both made mistakes.  He may have done some things to hurt you, but have you thought about the fact that you may have hurt him at some point of the relationship too?  Forgive and forget.  It will surely be hard, but we also have to consider that not all love stories have a happy ending.

THE SECOND OPTION

Have you ever been someone's second choice?  The second option?  The second priority?  The feeling wherein he/she says that you are important or you mean a lot to them, but deep inside, you know that there is always someone they prefer to be with?  Been there, felt that.

Ever asked yourself this question: Why should I be the second option when you have always been my first?  Ohh, right!  Because I will never be enough.  There are these moments in our lives wherein we just feel like saying, "I am not a second option. You either choose me or you lose me!"  Funny thing is, we just can't.  Know why?  Because we know that they will never choose us and it will be too painful to lose that person even if they never made us the only one and the priority.

While it is true that nobody deserves to be the second option, we cannot avoid this certain kind of scenario.  It just so happens that the second option is needed because the first option was not working out.  HAHA!  You know what second options are like?  A piece of meat that is saved up for later when the first option is not available.  It hurts to get punched by the truth, right?  It hurts to feel so used and mistreated when all you ever do is put so much effort into the relationship, but it never seems enough that is why you just get left behind when the real priority comes along again.

By the end of the day, here's a thought:

"Never settle for being someone's other when you have the potential to be someone's only."

UNREQUITED LOVE

"Loving someone who does not love you is like reaching for a star. You know you'll never reach it, but you just got to keep trying."

- Anonymous

Doesn't it feel good to love and to be loved in return?  The feeling wherein you love someone and the feeling is reciprocated.  Question is, why are there some instances wherein a person loves another even if the obvious fact is the other person does not?

During my early years, I often wonder why some people choose to engage in this kind of situation and go to such trouble as to love another even if the feeling is not reciprocated.  Is it because it is too hard to resist someone who is just so dashing and seems to be glowing when the sun is up (Oh, I'm not talking about Edward Cullen here) or is it because there are fewer complications when you get involved in this kind of love?

For those people who does not know the concept of unrequited love, according to wikipedia.org, it is a love that is not openly reciprocated or understood as such.  The beloved may or may not be aware of the admirer's deep and strong romantic affections.

I may have or may not have been in the same predicament as these people, but I can somehow summarize the whole cycle that they are in.  The other person will do all the loving, giving and caring, while the other did no loving, giving and caring at all, simply receiving.  It is not a good experience, but as most people say, every event/happening in your life has an equivalent lesson.

Everything happens for the best.  If the person you love now does not love you back, it does not mean that no person would.  Maybe, the timing is just wrong and the right person has yet to come.  Someday, someone would come along and love you as much as you do.  Be patient.  True love is something worth waiting for.

THOUSAND MILES AWAY

Ever loved someone who lives on the other side of the planet?  To the point that you never know when you might see that person because there are certain limitations that permit you to do so.  I have experienced this kind of situation.  It is really hard because you do not see the person as much as you want to and you cannot talk to that someone personally because he is just so far from you.

Although it is somewhat exciting because you never know if you will meet them soon or not, it hurts deep inside because as a person who is in love, certainty is of great importance.  Another problem with long distance love is that you never know if the other person is being honest with you.  He can tell you that he loves you even if he does not mean it, but you will never know.

Two important things that I believe would make a long distance love work are hope and optimism.  Hope because you try to put your everything to it and wish for everything good to happen although you are not entirely sure of the outcome.  Optimism because there comes a time wherein the loneliness of not being with him/her might eat you up.  Question here is, how long can you maintain your daily doses of hope and optimism?

A long distance love is something really fragile.  Yes, you can talk to one another on Viber, Facebook, YM or Skype, but the feeling of being close to someone else can be a serious threat to what you are feeling towards each other.

Credits to the owner of the video.  May your love last for a very long time. :)

SOMEWHERE DOWN THE ROAD

"We had the right love at the wrong time."

Did you ever fall for someone you know you should not?  Tried hard to fight your feelings, but you just could not?  You fall deeper as each day passes by, but try to hide it in every way possible?  This is something that has happened to most people who fell in love with the right person at the wrong time.  That feeling when you just want to be with someone, but you know that it is not possible because there is someone else.

"Guess I always knew inside... I wouldn't have you for a long time."

While a person can always love, hope and dream for anything to happen, he/she must also consider the outcome no matter what.  Loving is an easy thing to do, but there comes a time wherein timing is everything.  It is not always the case that a relationship will work out when love is real, the time element must also be considered.  You may be in love now, but when reality plays its part, you know you cannot have someone for a long time especially when he/she is happy with another.

"And if they're calling you away... I have no right to make you stay."

They say that if you love someone, you should let the person go.  The question is, how can you let go of someone if your world revolves around that person?  Unconditional love, that is what you need.  When you love someone, you want to see him/her happy regardless of your own feelings.  Yes, the pain is too much to bear, but you will get over it soon, I guess.

"Sometimes goodbyes are not forever."

Most people say that if you are really meant for each other, love will always find a way to bring you back together.  Love is a mystery.  You never chose who to love and who will love you, it was all planned because love chooses you.  It also takes time to grow and when the right time comes, it will return to you in a manner you would not have expected and imagined.

"Letting go is just another way to say... I'll always love you so."

Letting go is never easy.  It can actually break you and give you so much pain that it becomes hard to handle.  A lot of people believe that when you let go, it is the end of a love that has made a great impact on you.  Truth is, it is the beginning of a greater love that has yet to come.

NOTE:

While it is true that it hurts to love the right person at the wrong time, this situation actually gives us a brief background of what real love in a real world is all about.  Experience is the best teacher.  No matter how many times people tell you to love another person because it is the right thing to do, you cannot because that is not how love goes.  When you fall for someone, you just love.  You may expect something in return, but at the end of each day, it just feels right to love someone even if the feeling is not reciprocated.

I honestly salute those people who choose to love even if they know that what they feel is wrong.  To the point that even if the world hands them thousands of reasons not to fall in love, they believe that there is one reason why they must still hold on to that feeling.  Because that feeling, that is TRUE LOVE.  But in the end, it is your choice to make.  You can choose to love someone even if you are in pain or choose to let go because you know that the love will not blossom any time soon.

To end this blog post, here is a video that is somehow similar to what I wrote here.  It made me realize something, so I hope it does the same for you. Credits to the owner of the video! :)

FALLING IN LOVE

Falling in love is one of the greatest feelings that a person might have.  No matter how painful the outcome may be, we choose to fall in love because we want to feel this one of a kind feeling that brings us to a new world.  I used to believe that I have fallen in love a couple of times already.  But this year, I just figured out that I have only been in love in my entire life once.  How did I find out?  I do not know for sure, but I do think that when you have found the right one, you will know how many times you have really fallen in love.  In my case, I believe that I found him.

 

How will I describe what I feel for him?  That I am not really sure of.  Why do I love him?  Honestly, I have no reasons.  Then how can I say that I found the one?  I think it is as simple as 1 2 3.  All my life, no one has ever made me feel that my world is turning upside down.  When I was engaged in relationships before, I used to think that love can survive even if there is only a single person who puts much of an effort into it.  But this guy, he made me realize that love is a two-way process and if you really want to work things out, everything is possible no matter how far you are from each other.

 

The current situation we are in is actually something hard.  It actually takes a lot of courage to work it out especially because of the distance that separates us.  But even if we are very far away from each other right now, I believe that no one else comes close to him.  He is everything I have wished for, every dream come true and every love worth fighting for. 

 

 

8TH WORLD WONDER

Each and everyone of us has our own 8th world wonders.  They may be in the form of an object, a pet, a place or a person.  But the 8th world wonder is commonly said to be a person who gives you an out of this world feeling.

I first read this story on candymag.com/teentalk.  I was around fourteen years old that time.  Honestly, I did not believe that this certain kind of thing does exist.  Like seriously, an 8th world wonder?  That is ridiculous.  I used to think that you just fall in love with someone and that's it.  But an out of this world feeling?  NAH!

Funny thing is after four years, my belief actually changed.  Here is the thing, I met a guy who turned everything upside down.  It was around 12:26 AM, 23rd of March 2013.  It all started as a random conversation with a stranger.  Sounds unbelievable, right?  You might actually think that it is not even possible.  Well, I met him online, in a site wherein the tagline goes like this: Talk to strangers!  Does that ring a bell?

So, how did it all begin aside from the fact that it was a random conversation with a stranger?  In that site, you have to write some of your interests.  When I pressed Text, I waited for some time and then the next thing I know, I was talking to him.  I thought it would be like those other conversations wherein we will get disconnected all of a sudden, but ours was a very different story.  At first, it was just a plain and normal conversation, then we exchanged digits.  Thanks to Viber, anything is possible!  Here is another thing, we are miles apart from each other.  Because of that, I thought goodbyes would actually be easy.

The next five hours were the best five hours of my life.  There were a combination of various feelings that came out of nowhere.  I was happy, sad, enthralled, but most especially, in love.  You might actually find it funny and you might actually think I am crazy, but that is the truth.  Ironic as it may seem, but I found my 8th world wonder in just five hours.

When we had to bid goodbye, it was the most painful feeling I have ever felt.  I was not ready, my heart was not ready.  There was something inside me that must be revealed.  Good thing is, I was not the only one who was feeling that way.  We were both in love, but we both know that the dream has its end.  It all happened in five hours.  Deep inside, I know it is real.  Maybe one day, maybe someday, we will both wake up again from this very nice dream.

Dear Stranger,

Thank you for being my 8th world wonder.  I don't know when I'll be able to talk to you again, but I'll surely be looking forward to it.  I hope you don't forget me because I won't forget how you touched my heart forever.  As much as I don't want to lose you, I don't have a choice.  Yes, I must admit, it is breaking me to pieces knowing that this will all end soon.  But while it is still here and I am not yet waking up, I want to cherish every moment.  If you can read this right now, I want you to know how happy I am that I met someone like you and I want to take this chance to tell you that I love you. I really do.